As an artist I am constantly facing rejection, so articles like below, keep me going
better. There are certain beliefs that a lot of people believe and I
think it’s time to address these.
We are initially given beliefs from our parents, teachers, peers, TV and media. When
we are young we think adults know more than us so we generally trust in what
they say. However as we get older we form our own beliefs about the world. However
some of the residual beliefs from our childhood can remain. Sometimes
they have remained without us knowing about them.
Here are some beliefs that may be residual, see if you recognise any of them
and change them.
1. If you fail at something you are a failure
This is perpetuated at school and throughout our days of turning into an adult. We
are encouraged to win win win at all costs. If I fail at something, and
I have many times, I try again, and again, and again until I get it right. If
you believe that “if you fail at something you are a failure” then
that means everyone in the world is a failure. Don’t hold yourself
back by believing this. Install a new belief.
2. Why change it if it’s not broken
I don’t mean changing for the sake of changing. I am talking about
improving upon existing appliances, processes etc. We need change to
move on with life and you will always come up against people who don’t
like change, avoid them if you can. If you see something that could
be improved try and implement it.
3. You are not skilled enough to go for it
Nobody in life is skilled enough until they start doing it. If you want
to do something just start doing it, don’t stress about not getting into
university to do a degree in computing, just do it until you get in. The
internet has more information than you will get at university, college or school
it’s just a matter of finding it. If you are good and you sell
yourself well, you will get noticed.
4. You are too old to start something new
The average life expectancy in the UK is about 75 for men and 79 for women
and it is similar in the US and Europe. This will change and soon we’llbe seeing the average life expectancy at 100. This means we are never
too old to start something new. Starting a new venture is a great way
to keep the brain active and to keep motivation up for living. I believe
we are a nation of people who expect to die at around 75 or so, so what happens?
We do. If we expect to live to 100 we would do more changing, feel less
inhibited by time. Just do it.
5. You won’t amount to anything
The very fact that you are alive says that you are special. If you want to
be extraordinary you have to put in the effort. Every single one of us
has a talent we don’t know about or have not yet been recognised for. Try
everything to find something that you love. I am a great believer in
change; you don’t have to do one thing all your life. Change your
lifestyle many times until you find a path you love and are willing to work
6. The world does not revolve around you
The whole universe is all about you. Every single person on this planet
has a different world going on inside their heads. You see the world
differently from me and I see it differently from someone else. Therefore
the world is about you. Tell me now: what are you going to do to change
7. Nobody believes in you
I believe in you, but my opinion is worth nothing, everybody’s opinion
is worth nothing. Work on believing in yourself and work on letting go
of needing others to believe in you. As soon as you start believing in
yourself other people will start believing in you, but let go of needing their
8. You will never make that amount of money
I have heard this so many times. You will make exactly what you expect
to make. If I say to myself ‘There is no way I could make a million
pounds’ my brain will not look for ways of making that million. If
I am determined enough to make a million my brain will help me look for ways
of making it, no matter how outrageous the idea, at least you will be creating
9. There is nothing you can do about it
Rubbish! You can change any aspect of your life you just can’t see it
yet. Some people never get past this and it’s such a shame. Life
can be hard and it takes guts to make the decision to change your life, but
you can change it. Know what you want, know the steps you have to take
and then change it.